Loving Flowers

Do you ever wonder where love goes once two People separate due to any circumstance? Into the memory; perhaps to remind us of once finer days or to haunt us while trying to mend anew. For love can never truly die, only be unable to blossom any further. Many a flowery seed are scattered and planted on this Earth. However; not ever single one of those seeds develop or grow to their full potential. Other flowers are often made stagnate by weeds. Take the daffodils for example.

Daffodils have been known for thousands of years. They figure in the myth of Narcissus, which is another name for the daffodil plant. Narcissus fell in love with his own image in a pool of water, and was turned into a flower. The drooping head of the daffodil flower represents Narcissus staring at himself in the water.”

Narcissus may have taken self-love to the extreme, however; salvageable may be an important point from this Greek Mythology. Perhaps one must first love themselves before being able to love another. For a flower thrives via nurturing elements, mutualism (wherein both species benefit from the interaction) – not by means of codependency (parasitism wherein one organism benefits and the other is harmed.) Therefore; elaborating on love yourself first, perhaps a person also needs to be contented with themselves as not to depend or rely on another to fulfill that void in oneself and so on. If one can not give themselves these things or more, one should not expect another to make up for self-lack. Hence, allowing mutual adaption to coexist in a relationship, thus benefiting each other not out of want, rather interaction.

According to TheFreeDictionary, “A famous land version of mutual symbiosis is the relationship of the Egyptian Plover bird and the crocodile. In this relationship, the bird is well known for preying on parasites that feed on crocodiles which are potentially harmful for the animal. To that end, the crocodile openly invites the bird to hunt on his body, even going so far as to open the jaws to allow the bird enter the mouth safely to hunt. For the bird's part, this relationship not only is a ready source of food, but a safe one considering that few predator species would dare strike at the bird at such proximity to its host.”

And so here’s to flowers and their essences. Perhaps there is truth in the Bach Flower Remedies. “ Flower essences are dilute extracts of various types of flowers and plants that are used to treat animals and people. They are similar to homeopathic remedies in that they are diluted and potentized to make them more effective than just using the original flower as a herbal extract. The person who first developed the original flower remedies was Dr. Edward Bach, a famous English physician. He developed the Bach Flower Remedies when he was working as a homeopathic practitioner and devoted the last years of his life to researching and developing his remedies, from 1930 onwards. He wanted to find a simpler form of treatment that would not require anything to be destroyed or altered.

Dr. Bach believed that diseases of the body come about as a result of imbalances or negativity at the level of the soul, and by correcting the problem here healing would result and the body would heal on all levels. The flower remedies act to balance in harmonies in the emotional and spiritual body, and bring about a gentle healing by bringing the body back in balance with itself. They act almost a catalysts to cause healing. There were originally thirty eight Bach Flower Remedies that at that time Dr. Bach felt would correct all imbalances that were possible. There are remedies such as Holly which he found would heal the state of anger, and open the heart, and remedies that deal with a variety of other emotions from lack of confidence to over enthusiasm and impatience.”

After all, scented flowers do seem to soothe the memories of the heart. As well as from flowers, there seems much can be learnt about life, living, and love.

e.e. cummings - in time of daffodils

in time of daffodils(who know
the goal of living is to grow)
forgetting why,remember how

in time of lilacs who proclaim
the aim of waking is to dream,
remember so(forgetting seem)

in time of roses(who amaze
our now and here with paradise)
forgetting if,remember yes

in time of all sweet things beyond
whatever mind may comprehend,
remember seek(forgetting find)

and in a mystery to be
(when time from time shall set us free)
forgetting me,remember me

4 Comments With Humanity:

franscud said...

Ah Jeane, so many things to consider and on so many levels. I certainly have personal experiences that would bear out your theses, but I'll only chime in with an ancillary rememberance that in some crazy way is significant. I grew up on Holly Road, a street which in fact had many holly trees in the midst of its wooded edges. Maybe I need to retreat back to their protection to escape the anger and open up the heart.

-Jeane Michelle Culp said...

“Deck the halls with boughs of holly,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Tis the season to be jolly,
Fa la la la la, la la la la. “

Perhaps Serendipity my Friend?! Perhaps the Universe is trying to tell you something ?! Are you listening, can you hear the Universal tune? For though anger is a strong emotion, yet understandable - given the current state of affairs in the world and heart. May Holly decorate your life as if it were Christmas every day, melting your heart with a warm glow of optimism and acceptance of self and self-worth.

eastcoastdweller said...

Flowers have found their way into mythology all over the world.

I also agree with Your thoughts about needing to be whole in order to love.

Some bitter guy on another blog chastised a writer (not me), for speaking highly of Women and putting them on a pedestal. The bitter guy claimed that he was annoyed with "American Women" because They all seemed to be so narcissistic, feeling entitled to such a pedestal already, as it were.

I'm still working on a response but I think it will be: A Woman who is truly aware of Her beauty and happy to be Herself, is the farthest thing in the world from a narcissist. She not only loves Herself in a healthy, happy way, but She loves others too.

The kind of Women this guy seems to meet, are NOT happy with themselves. They DON'T truly love themselves, having been brainwashed by popular culture that a Woman can't be beautiful unless She is such and such and this and that.

Be not fooled. They are insecure and miserable and incapable, in that state, of truly loving. And thus Their desperate preoccupation with self.

-Jeane Michelle Culp said...

eastcoastdweller, you are the quintessential of what Women desire in a man, and I hope some day you find that special one cause that Woman will be fortunate and surely appreciated by you.

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